I've been using people to make myself feel better. like look at me or love me so I feel good about myself. if you reject me I have to find some sort of way to fix it so I'm not left questioning my identity and my self worth. I've been so focused on making myself feel important that I've totally compromised my consideration of other people.. I've put security above kindness and I've put my own needs above the needs of others. I've placed my identity in the hands of those around me and I've allowed my emotions to follow the course of their actions. I've become apathetic to their needs and their emotions. how did this happen?